Today, I finally asked sis what the plan is with Little Man and the daycare. Turns out, he will be going full time (which I’d just told Mom earlier I thought would be the route they’d take), so I’ll only have him for the next week. I’m so excited for his growth & experience coming up. I’m a little sad I won’t be as big a part of it, though.
I didn’t get to stay home with my own daughter. I very much enjoyed being home with Little Man for the past year. It isn’t the same as doing it for my own child, but it is something I felt was important. I loved being able to bond with him in such an incredible way!
I Can Improve #10: Plan cooking sessions for SATURDAY, not Friday night! I’m exhausted from 5 hours of cooking!!
Daughter and I spent the day with little man today, since it was a teacher workday (and therefore sis was working, but daughter didn’t have school). I think he really enjoyed having her there, because he was full of squeals and laughter and chatter. It was adorable!
Oh, and there were mini snow flurries. Cute!
I Can Improve #6: I get so easily distracted! Daughter was there, I should have focused more on work instead of continuing to interact with the both of them all day.
I keep running across these word images that piss me off. They describe a correlation between spanking and “suffering” from an “affliction” called “respect for others.” Yes, that’s an overuse of quotation marks, and for that I apologize. It’s still rankling my brain, apparently.
I won’t go into great detail, but I personally believe that spanking teaches a person to be afraid, unhappy, and scared of being themselves. It teaches a person to cower down to those in authority – not due to respect. It tears apart a person’s self esteem, and teaches them they’re worthless.
So I made a conscious decision to treat my child differently. She was spanked – a handful of times in her entire life. For serious things only. And it wasn’t to teach her respect for others. It was to show her that what she did was absolutely unacceptable in any way shape or form. And later, we would have a conversation about how I despise spanking, how it tears me apart, and how I was sorry to have been angry enough to spank – and how it could have been different.
I raised my child with love, thought, and understanding. I’m in no way perfect – I yell (I yell more than most, so don’t compare yourself to me – you have no idea how much I yell; it is a serious fault of mine). I am quick to lose my temper. I am selfish in many ways. But I taught my daughter to be a giver – by example. Not by speaking of doing so. I taught my child to respect others – by example and discipline. I taught my child that there would be consequences for every action. I was consistent, I was firm. And I was honest. When I made mistakes, I owned up to them. I didn’t break a single promise – if I couldn’t reasonably make it happen, it didn’t become a promise.
Spanking doesn’t teach respect. And respect is not a damn affliction.
The above image is MY version of the “discipline” and “respect.”
Respect is learned. And earned. It is not borne of fear and violence.
I Can Improve #5:
I will continue to teach myself to avoid yelling.
Speaking of cards last night reminded me –
I bought Thank You cards, and I have full intention of sending them out this year. So I need to get on the ball. That will be my mission for this coming up week. I need to make sure the people I appreciate KNOW that I appreciate them. I try to be vocal with my appreciation, but sometimes a written words can feel like so much more!
I Can Improve #3:
Send thank you cards for Christmas gifts before January next year. Get them out before January 15th this year.
I’m always full of good intention but more often than not find I psych myself out.
I surprised myself with sending out Christmas cards for the 2nd year in a row. As in I bought, filled out, stamped, addressed, and MAILED them. Many more years, I have gone so far as to stamp them, and they still didn’t get out. Everyone started sending out the beautiful photo cards, so I became filled with a strange fear that mine would be looked at as cheep or chintzy. Last year, I decided I just don’t care. I’ll send them out anyway – at least my family and friends will know I’m thinking of them. I have to spend $40 just on stamps to send cards to family. By the time I add in all my friends, it’s at least another $20. So folks will just have to understand that I cannot spend a significant amount on the cards themselves. The 2 boxes if cards picture are only half of what I sent out this year! Plus I sent out a few individually purchased cards, too. Think about all the love that was shared!
I Can Improve:
I need to keep my address book updated, and keep a list somewhere of folks I want to send cards to, because when you’re making out 50+ cards for family alone, sometimes your brain gets filled and you don’t remember to make them out to each of your friends as well!
New month, new focus for positive thinking. January will be about things I can do better. Some may overlap or repeat, depending on my day.
Today I made New Year’s Day soup: kale (leafy greens for folding money), black eyed pea (legumes for coin money), & potato soup. I seasoned it with garlic & onion & a ham hock. And served it with corn bread (gold). A not-so-traditional southern-style meal. I think it turned out fabulously, and daughter even said (reluctantly), “So I will admit, this is really good.”
Things I can improve, day #1:
I need to have more confidence in my recipe ideas. Once upon a time, I would have ignored the urge to make this meal and would have just eaten black eyed peas by myself.